Sometimes you receive news that you knew was coming. It’s expected. Some of my closest friends got engaged. That wasn’t surprising news. I was expecting it. Don’t get me wrong, it was still exciting. But, it wasn’t necessarily surprising. Then, there is news that you aren’t expecting and knocks you on your ass for a few minutes. I received some news like that yesterday. Are you sitting down? I’m glad I was sitting down when I received it. Here it goes: TB knocked up his ugly girlfriend and is getting married next month. WHAT?!?! Yeah. His mom informed me of this. I am in shock. I seriously can’t even believe it. Less than 6 months ago he was talking about marrying me. Now he’s planning a wedding with someone else? I mean, I don’t want him back. Don’t get me wrong. That’s not why I’m shocked or anything. It’s just, wow. I guess they never heard of birth control. Maybe it was her evil plan to trap him. From what he’s told me about her, I think she’s evil and tacky and it wouldn’t surprise me. (I’m not bitter. These are words out of his own mouth from a few months ago when we were still talking.) But, man. Shocking!
In a way, the news kind of helped me in my own life. I went out with the nicest guy the other day. He was so sweet and nice. We had everything in common. But, I wasn’t sure that he was “exciting” or that there was a spark. But, he texted me that night saying he had fun. All weekend when I was sick, he kept checking on me and was concerned. He even looked up remedies for my ear infection online. Super sweet! But, I was still kind of holding out to see what else was out there. I’d been talking to this hilarious guy online and he suggested hanging out on Sunday. I never heard from him. A Marine I’d been flirting with and I made plans on Saturday night, but he kept pushing plans back later and later til I finally told him to eff off. He was super funny and sexy too. Real exciting. But, flakey. That’s what all these exciting guys have in common: they’re flakey. They mean well, I’m sure. But, I’m not a priority. This new guy is ready and wanting to make me a priority. Yet, I kept pushing him off. He wanted to hang out all weekend, but I kept pushing him off. But, for no real reason. He was really good looking. He has a job. He’s close with his family. So, why was I pushing him off? I decided to invite him to hang out with me and the It Couple, so maybe they could give me a read on him. He was totally fine with hanging out with my friends. I even warned him that I wouldn’t be looking cute cause I’m still sick. He said I needed to focus on myself and feeling better, rather than dressing up for him. Could he be more perfect?! He totally got along with It Couple. He was sweet and fun. After hanging out with them for a couple hours, we spent 3 hours talking. It’s just so easy to be around him. I’m so comfortable with him. He said that he likes me, and he doesn’t like to date more than 1 person at a time. I’m the same way. So, I decided that he’s the kind of guy who wouldn’t just ditch me for superficial reasons, like some of the other guys I’ve chosen in the past. He got home and deleted his online profile. So, I’ve decided to delete mine as well, and give this guy a shot. I could do a lot worse than focus on a really sweet, cute guy who goes out of his way to look up remedies for me online when I’m sick.
Monday, December 20, 2010
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Life lessons
It’s funny sometimes when you’re taught a life lesson. I guess that there are lessons everywhere, and you just have to pick up on them. I met this guy online. He seemed really nice and open. He was funny and really fun to talk to. He was super into me. He wasn’t the cutest guy, but I really dug his personality. We made plans to meet on Saturday. He blew off his friends so he could hang out with me. I thought that was sweet. We met up and hung out for about 4 hours. We just talked and had fun. I was kind of on the fence though. I mean, he had some feminine qualities. I guess it was the way he said somethings, or certain mannerisms. I’m sure he’s not gay, cause he kept saying how attracted to me he was. He asked to kiss me after like 2 hours. I told him no. I just wasn’t feeling it. We kept talking. We hung out til about 8:45pm. He went home. But, before he left, he told me that he wanted to be exclusive, and I’d have to let him know on Sunday. Um, we just met and hung out for like 4 hours. And I was already on the fence. He became all weirdly clingy. Like, calling me “baby” in every text. The next day I was going to go to his area to hang out again, and he wrote “Yay, my baby is coming to see me!” Um, weird! I mean, I’m glad he was excited, but come on! I told him that it was weirding me out a little how he was acting, and I needed to get to know him more. He said he understood and didn’t need to rush into anything. I told him that was cool, and that we could hang out a different time. But, he went back into “baby” mode. I think I could have really liked him if he would have just let it happen naturally. I wish he wouldn’t have been so clingy. I think he would have grown on me. It was really just superficial reasons that I wasn’t liking him (i.e. that he was so whiney and clingy), and I think I could have adjusted. But, he pushed it and pushed me away. The life lesson is that I now see how I’ve done that in the past and it didn’t work out. You just have to let things happen naturally. And, you have to really pay attention to the other person and see how they’re acting and reacting. Look at that: I’m actually learning from past relationships and using them to help me move on. Go me.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
Online dating etiquette
OK, here's another question I have about online dating. Why do people "favorite" you without actually talking to you or sending you an email or at least "winking" at you if the site has such a feature? I have been favorited by about 30 people, no joke. Not ONE of them has sent me an email. Do they just go around favoriting people so they can have this weird collection of chicks they like to look at but not actually talk to? Am I supposed to see that I've been favorited and send them an email? "Hey, I appreciate that I'm a favorite of yours. Let's make out." I just don't get it. What is the proper online dating etiquette in this situation? Maybe there should be a book written on online dating etiquette. Maybe I should write said book. However, I obviously don't know, so it'd be a short book. Another issue, can I look at other girl's profiles to see what they're writing? Should I create a fake dude profile so they don't think it's weird that a chick is looking at their page? I saw that a girl looked at my page today, and I thought that was weird. But, maybe she was doing the same thing. Why isn't there a book explaining all of this?!
I signed up for a new site today. The Comic is currently on OkCupid, so I figured I'd give it a chance. It's free, so why not. It's a weird site. Way more complex than Plenty of Fish. It's like an Eharmony/Match mix. They rate people based on compatibility, but you can still search for yourself. It's like they're saying "You won't get along with this person, but you think he's hot because he's a Marine. Don't say we didn't warn you." Not that I was only looking at Marines online. I may have done a preliminary search just to see pretty pictures. But, I've broadened my search to all dudes. They just have to be cute and nice and funny. Doesn't seem like a lot to ask for. Apparently it's a dying breed. The funny thing is that I looked on the Comic's page, and the site rated us as 57% friends and 19% enemies. That's sad, considering he's my best dude friend. Apparently we are not compatible as friends. Glad I know that now.
I signed up for a new site today. The Comic is currently on OkCupid, so I figured I'd give it a chance. It's free, so why not. It's a weird site. Way more complex than Plenty of Fish. It's like an Eharmony/Match mix. They rate people based on compatibility, but you can still search for yourself. It's like they're saying "You won't get along with this person, but you think he's hot because he's a Marine. Don't say we didn't warn you." Not that I was only looking at Marines online. I may have done a preliminary search just to see pretty pictures. But, I've broadened my search to all dudes. They just have to be cute and nice and funny. Doesn't seem like a lot to ask for. Apparently it's a dying breed. The funny thing is that I looked on the Comic's page, and the site rated us as 57% friends and 19% enemies. That's sad, considering he's my best dude friend. Apparently we are not compatible as friends. Glad I know that now.
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
what. the. heck.
What is wrong with some people? I wonder sometimes if people think. Or, more importantly, if they do think, what their thought process is like. Here are a few recent examples (in order from “huh?” to “WTF?!?!”).
1) A guy online that messaged me a couple days ago had his screen name as “Hot Hung Guy” and his age. Like 31 or 33 or something. But seriously. Hot. Hung. Guy. Well, I am glad he’s a guy and that he clarified that. He probably thought he was being descriptively awesome. But, I think that if you have to call yourself “hot” and “hung”, then you’re probably not. Do you think Giselle the supermodel would name herself “Beautiful Skinny Girl”? Or, Johnny Depp would be “Ultimate Sexiness”? I think those things are just obvious when you see the person. I get that if you’re funny or really smart, you’d want to put those characteristics out there. But, if you’re truly hot and hung, wouldn’t that just speak for itself? Ok, maybe the fact that he’s hung wouldn’t be obvious in a picture online. But, maybe some things don’t need to be obvious online. Or, if you’re that determined to let chicks know you’re hung, put up a picture of you in a speedo. I feel like if the word “hung” is in your profile name, a speedo picture should be mandatory. But here’s a warning ladies, he’s probably overcompensating and is not actually hung. He definitely wasn’t hot.
2) A guy messaged me. He wasn’t my type. I decided to not respond. I don’t like to respond “Sorry, I’m not interested.” It’s just not necessary. I get the hint when someone doesn’t respond to me. Not everyone is going to respond to everyone. That’s the nice way of rejecting someone. So this random guy messages me. I don’t respond. He sent me an email about 6 days later. Subject line “Hi- 2nd email.” The body of the email read: “I emailed you and no received no response. I’m possibly interested. Email back.” Um, I’m not possibly interested. I’m not at all interested. Did he really think that I would respond to that?! Oh, well if you’re possibly interested. I’m sorry, but I can tell by pictures and what you wrote that I’m not even slightly maybe a little interested. Not even if I was super bored and had nothing else to do would I be interested. The funny thing is that I was talking to the Comic and he said he got a similar email. Why would someone think that’s going to work? One time I got a follow up email “You think you’re so good cause you’re hot and I’m fat?” Wow.
3) The other day I met a guy who seemed pretty cool. We exchanged some great emails back and forth. He seemed really fun and charming. He said he wanted to take me out to dinner and could he have my number. I gave him my number and he called. We had charming conversation for about 10 minutes. Then, he told me that he was touching himself and wanted to have phone sex. WHAT?!?! Where the heck did that come from? It’s not like I’d mentioned anything remotely sexy. How does one go from “what books do you like to read” and “how many siblings do you have” to “wanna talk dirty to me”? I briefly thought it’d be kind of funny to play it out. But, then I realized it was just disgusting and I told him that he and I were obviously looking for different things, and good luck. I then wondered if I should somehow sanitize my phone. Gross.
1) A guy online that messaged me a couple days ago had his screen name as “Hot Hung Guy” and his age. Like 31 or 33 or something. But seriously. Hot. Hung. Guy. Well, I am glad he’s a guy and that he clarified that. He probably thought he was being descriptively awesome. But, I think that if you have to call yourself “hot” and “hung”, then you’re probably not. Do you think Giselle the supermodel would name herself “Beautiful Skinny Girl”? Or, Johnny Depp would be “Ultimate Sexiness”? I think those things are just obvious when you see the person. I get that if you’re funny or really smart, you’d want to put those characteristics out there. But, if you’re truly hot and hung, wouldn’t that just speak for itself? Ok, maybe the fact that he’s hung wouldn’t be obvious in a picture online. But, maybe some things don’t need to be obvious online. Or, if you’re that determined to let chicks know you’re hung, put up a picture of you in a speedo. I feel like if the word “hung” is in your profile name, a speedo picture should be mandatory. But here’s a warning ladies, he’s probably overcompensating and is not actually hung. He definitely wasn’t hot.
2) A guy messaged me. He wasn’t my type. I decided to not respond. I don’t like to respond “Sorry, I’m not interested.” It’s just not necessary. I get the hint when someone doesn’t respond to me. Not everyone is going to respond to everyone. That’s the nice way of rejecting someone. So this random guy messages me. I don’t respond. He sent me an email about 6 days later. Subject line “Hi- 2nd email.” The body of the email read: “I emailed you and no received no response. I’m possibly interested. Email back.” Um, I’m not possibly interested. I’m not at all interested. Did he really think that I would respond to that?! Oh, well if you’re possibly interested. I’m sorry, but I can tell by pictures and what you wrote that I’m not even slightly maybe a little interested. Not even if I was super bored and had nothing else to do would I be interested. The funny thing is that I was talking to the Comic and he said he got a similar email. Why would someone think that’s going to work? One time I got a follow up email “You think you’re so good cause you’re hot and I’m fat?” Wow.
3) The other day I met a guy who seemed pretty cool. We exchanged some great emails back and forth. He seemed really fun and charming. He said he wanted to take me out to dinner and could he have my number. I gave him my number and he called. We had charming conversation for about 10 minutes. Then, he told me that he was touching himself and wanted to have phone sex. WHAT?!?! Where the heck did that come from? It’s not like I’d mentioned anything remotely sexy. How does one go from “what books do you like to read” and “how many siblings do you have” to “wanna talk dirty to me”? I briefly thought it’d be kind of funny to play it out. But, then I realized it was just disgusting and I told him that he and I were obviously looking for different things, and good luck. I then wondered if I should somehow sanitize my phone. Gross.
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