So things haven't been so great lately. A lot of bummer news going on in my life. But, I don't want to dwell on that, so I'll talk about the exciting things. First, 2 of my closest girlfriends got engaged!! The Adorables got engaged a couple weeks ago!! I'm so excited for them!! The It Couple got engaged as well!! He proposed a week ago. I'm super excited for them too! Both rings are beautiful. Both girls are super excited. Both dudes are super excited too! It's just happiness all around!!
But, the biggest change in my life is the fact that my sister got married!! The whole engagement was really fast and exciting. They didn't want a big wedding, and finally decided on a small family only wedding in Cambria, California. I'd never been there before, but it's a favorite place of theirs. The church was this small church built in 1870. It used to be a Catholic church. It was perfect! Afterward we went to a bar to watch the USC game, and then to this wonderful dinner at a quaint restaurant that is in an old house. The food was delicious. My sister was beautiful in an elegant yet simple dress that fit her perfectly. Though, it's hard for something to not look amazing on my sister. Damn her and her supermodel body. Kidding. Kind of. She wore amazing pink Louboutin shoes. My new bro-in-law looked nice too. The whole thing was a perfect wedding and perfect for them. It's just weird to think that my sister is married now! I really couldn't be happier for them though. It's going to be even weirder when they start popping out babies, I guess. But, I'm ready to be an Auntie!! I'm already a pseudo-auntie to the cutest American/British baby, but he's so far away. I need an autie position closer to home.
As for my love life, there may be an update. Though, I'm worried to mention it on here, cause it seems lately that as soon as I do, things end. But here we go. I canceled my online account. But, then I remembered this real cute boy who had emailed me right before I closed it. So, I decided to go back on and email him. What else do I have going on? So I signed back up on Sunday and emailed him. He responded immediately. We emailed back and forth a few times, and then I gave him my number and he called me. We talked for an hour. Then we texted for an hour. He lives by my old law school, and I told him I'd be there on Monday for a meeting at 11. He suggested we meet after that. I mentioned that I'd be with It Girl. He said that was cool with him. So, we met him yesterday for lunch. He ended up being really cool. He's an electrician. No military experience. He's 33 and super nice. He reminds me a lot of the Dry Waller, only more positive. After we left lunch, I told It Girl that I hoped he called me. He texted me right then and said he'd like to hang out later. So I told him I'd call him later. I called him around 5 and we made plans to meet up around 8 for a drink. We met up and hung out for a few hours just talking. He's super cool and fun and hyper. We're supposed to hang out again soon. We'll see what happens, I suppose.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
Constant change
It’s funny how quickly things can change. The newest Marine (hereinafter “Family Man”) and I decided to be just friends. He is just scared of moving on and isn’t ready. I’m not going to try to force anything. Plus, it’s early enough that I can cut off my feelings and be just friends with him. I’ve been talking to his ex a lot. She’s super cool, and we’re becoming really good friends. I honestly think I didn’t give her a chance and judged her without knowing her. She and I actually have a ton in common. So, I have decided to be just a friend of the family. Family Man was supposed to come to a USC game with me on Saturday, but there was a family emergency at home, so he ended up flaking. I texted Sister Wife to see if everything was ok, and she clued me in to the emergency. It was real. I felt bad, cause I understand that things come up, but I was still pretty bummed that he flaked. I would never tell him that, cause then how selfish am I? But, I was a little bummed.
I ended up meeting up with this other guy I’d been talking to. He has a ton of tattoos and is super hyper and awesome. He sends me a “song of the day” everyday. It’s everything from Metal to Ani DiFranco. I was really excited to hang out with him and see what could happen there. Within 5 minutes of me meeting him, he was telling me about his anxiety problems, and that he needs medication. He kept texting girl friends of his while with me, but explaining that they were just friends. Yeah, it’s just rude. And then he told me that he was having such bad luck with chicks that he once made out with a guy just to ensure that he wasn’t gay. That’s where I drew the line and lost my attraction. Don’t get me wrong: I have nothing wrong with people who are gay. Some of my closest friends are gay. I just think it’s strange that he would experiment to see if he was gay. I’m jealous enough of chicks, I would hate to have to be jealous of dudes now to. “Were you checking that guy out?!” Beyond that, he was telling me how he often goes to the Mac Counter to get his makeup done for various goth clubs and whatnot. I just think he’s not my type of guy. I love artsy guys. But, I prefer real manly men. I don’t want to worry that my boyfriend is going to steal my make-up. I also don’t want to date a guy who wears more make-up than me. There are just a few issues there. He and I could be friends, cause he was a really nice guy. But, I just don’t feel a love connection. And I went home and took down my online profile. I decided that I’m done with online dating for a while. I think it’s time to just see what happens naturally.
Speaking of, I went to hang out with Sister Wife and the kids yesterday. We went to the park and watched movies and had so much fun. When the eldest got home from school and saw me there, she came running over and gave me a huge hug. It was so cute! And then Family Guy got home from work. It was the first time I had seen him in his uniform. I actually forget that he’s a Marine at times, because he’s so not the “typical” Marine. He’s so mellow and sweet and nice. He tries to convince me that he’s actually tough and can make the Marines he trains cry. I just don’t see it. Anyway, he got home, and we all sat around talking for a while. And then Sister Wife went upstairs. And then Family Guy told me that he loves that I get along with everyone so well and that he thinks I really fit in with everyone. He then said he wants to see what happens with us as a couple. Sister Wife was telling me all day that he really likes me and that she wants us to be together. She said that most girls, including herself, never liked him for him, but used him as a fling, or as a way to get over another guy because he was so nice. But she said she could tell that I really like him. I thought that was funny, cause he seems to be everything I want in a man, so I find it hard to believe that other girls don’t feel the same way. I told both him and Sister Wife (at separate times) that we need to take it real slow, because I don’t want their girls to get attached and then it not work out. If it’s not going to work out, I’d rather we all just keep it as friends. It just doesn’t help that he and I both really like each other. Sigh.
I ended up meeting up with this other guy I’d been talking to. He has a ton of tattoos and is super hyper and awesome. He sends me a “song of the day” everyday. It’s everything from Metal to Ani DiFranco. I was really excited to hang out with him and see what could happen there. Within 5 minutes of me meeting him, he was telling me about his anxiety problems, and that he needs medication. He kept texting girl friends of his while with me, but explaining that they were just friends. Yeah, it’s just rude. And then he told me that he was having such bad luck with chicks that he once made out with a guy just to ensure that he wasn’t gay. That’s where I drew the line and lost my attraction. Don’t get me wrong: I have nothing wrong with people who are gay. Some of my closest friends are gay. I just think it’s strange that he would experiment to see if he was gay. I’m jealous enough of chicks, I would hate to have to be jealous of dudes now to. “Were you checking that guy out?!” Beyond that, he was telling me how he often goes to the Mac Counter to get his makeup done for various goth clubs and whatnot. I just think he’s not my type of guy. I love artsy guys. But, I prefer real manly men. I don’t want to worry that my boyfriend is going to steal my make-up. I also don’t want to date a guy who wears more make-up than me. There are just a few issues there. He and I could be friends, cause he was a really nice guy. But, I just don’t feel a love connection. And I went home and took down my online profile. I decided that I’m done with online dating for a while. I think it’s time to just see what happens naturally.
Speaking of, I went to hang out with Sister Wife and the kids yesterday. We went to the park and watched movies and had so much fun. When the eldest got home from school and saw me there, she came running over and gave me a huge hug. It was so cute! And then Family Guy got home from work. It was the first time I had seen him in his uniform. I actually forget that he’s a Marine at times, because he’s so not the “typical” Marine. He’s so mellow and sweet and nice. He tries to convince me that he’s actually tough and can make the Marines he trains cry. I just don’t see it. Anyway, he got home, and we all sat around talking for a while. And then Sister Wife went upstairs. And then Family Guy told me that he loves that I get along with everyone so well and that he thinks I really fit in with everyone. He then said he wants to see what happens with us as a couple. Sister Wife was telling me all day that he really likes me and that she wants us to be together. She said that most girls, including herself, never liked him for him, but used him as a fling, or as a way to get over another guy because he was so nice. But she said she could tell that I really like him. I thought that was funny, cause he seems to be everything I want in a man, so I find it hard to believe that other girls don’t feel the same way. I told both him and Sister Wife (at separate times) that we need to take it real slow, because I don’t want their girls to get attached and then it not work out. If it’s not going to work out, I’d rather we all just keep it as friends. It just doesn’t help that he and I both really like each other. Sigh.
Monday, November 1, 2010
Insta-family
Things with Computer Guy didn’t work out. On date 3 or 4, I found out that he’s a huge conspiracy theorist. It started with “the government is putting fluoride in our water to dumb down the population”. How about people are dumbing themselves down by not actually studying in school, or trying to learn or make something of themselves? How about people spend too much time watching tv or playing video games and not enough time reading a book or a newspaper? Then it was “the government is ruled by this gnarly law called maritime law, and the UCC is the most evil law in the world.” Ok, this one is easy for me. 3 years in law school, remember? Um, no. “Maritime law” is basically the law of boats- it’s law that applies to boat related activities. Not so much the law that governs the land. Actually is the opposite of land related law. And the UCC is evil? Yes, that dang Uniform Commercial Code that governs sales of goods and other evil things like that!! I pointed these things out. He didn’t care. He said I’m one of the spoonfed masses. I asked where he got his information. He said from youtube clips from really smart people. I asked if he’s checked their resources. He said he trusted these people. I called him a hypocrite. He said he trusted these people and their research. I asked if the “spoonfed masses” trusted their sources, then how are they wrong? His head then exploded. Ok, that’s not entirely true. But, he got real annoyed that I would question it. Then he played this youtube clip about how the legal system is just a game, and it’s meant to play with people’s lives and how the lawyers are the players. I’m sorry, but please do not insult me in my own home! Oh, and he went off about how Pearl Harbor and 9-11 were inside government conspiracies. I’m the wrong person to be spouting this BS to. I’m so pro-USA and proud to be an American and all of that. I support our troops, and pay taxes and want to work for the government! So, that was the end of that.
So, I went back online and made some dates with new guys. I decided to give this new Marine a chance. He’s been trying real hard to hang out, and I was kind of putting him off because of Computer Guy. Well, I was also putting him off because he has 3 kids and a very close ex wife. But, he promised that it was over with her, and he was ready to move on. So we hung out Monday night. I met him at Buffalo Wild Wings. He was super sweet. Quite possibly, he was the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. He was just very calm and nice and had this great energy about him. I was so nervous. I don’t think I’ve ever been so nervous in my life. I couldn’t stop fidgeting. It was insane! But, we ended up talking for a couple hours. It was real easy being with him. And just nice. He invited me to go trick-or-treating with him and his family on Sunday. I thought that would be a little nerve wracking to meet his kids and his ex, but I thought it also sounded like a lot of fun. Then on Wednesday he invited me to go to his ex-wife’s cousin’s birthday party. I probably shouldn’t have gone, but I wanted to see how they interacted and to meet the ex. She was actually really nice to me. But, I don’t get why he likes me: she and I are POLAR opposites. For example, she showed up in this adorable (but really, really tight and low-cut) dress and super high heels. I showed up in jeans and a sweater and sandals. She talked about exercising and being fat. I didn’t. I mean, I just don’t think we have anything in common. Well, cut to Sunday, and I see that she likes to read Poe and is actually a pretty intelligent person. OK..but I’m getting ahead of myself. Her cousins were very nice to me, also. But, we all just felt so awkward. At one point, she and I were sitting next to each other, and I was so awkward! I told him that no matter what I ever put him through, it will never compare as to how I felt that night. But, it was also nice to get meeting her out of the way when it wasn’t just the 3 of us. She asked if I liked him, and said he’s really nice and that he really likes me. She and I ended up having a long conversation about the situation and how they both come from broken homes and want their kids to see that a blended family can work. But that I have to be ok with the situation. I think it’s admirable that they can do everything for the kids, and put their own feelings aside. I don’t know if I can handle it, and I have told him that. He understands.
Saturday, he wanted me to meet him at a Halloween party. I was going to go after the USC game. But, I ended up not getting to my apartment until midnight. I wouldn’t have gotten to him until 12:30. And I was exhausted. He told me he didn’t want me driving if I was tired. I would have, but I’m really glad he made that choice for me. Apparently they had an awesome time, and he was trashed. It was probably best that I didn’t go afterall. I went to his house on Sunday for Halloween. I was super nervous about meeting the kids. They were all so sweet though!! The middle kid was my insta-best friend. She talked my ear off the whole time. She curled up on the sofa against me and watched tv with me. While trick-or-treating, she held my hand and had me go up to the doors with her. It made me want to cry! Just so sweet! The little boy is almost 2, and has so much energy. He reminds me so much of my little brother when he was a kid. I think for 3 hours straight, and he and the puppy were playing chase around the house. Non-stop. It was hilarious! The oldest girl was adorable too. She was a little more reserved at first, but then opened up. She loves to read and write, and was proudly proclaiming herself to be a tomboy. I told her I am a tomboy too, and very proud of that! She was sad that her friend couldn’t come trick or treating with us, cause she was stuck with the little kids and the grown-ups. I promised her that we would still have fun. I was also sad to realize that I was classified in the “grown-ups” group. But, when we got back to the house, she confessed that she did have a lot of fun still. When we got back, we passed out candy. It was me and the 2 girls passing out candy. My guy kept telling me I could let them do it by themselves and go sit down. I guess he didn’t quite understand that I preferred to pass out candy and was having so much fun. It was then that the oldest girl asked if I could spend the night and if we could have a slumber party. She said I could even sleep in their room. It was so cute! The costumes on all of the kids were so cute!! My guy’s oldest kid was a vampire and did her own make-up. She was very proud of it, and I complimented her work. The two little ones were pirates. There was this one little guy who was dressed as a boxer. I think he was my favorite! There were so many princesses and I saw 2 little girls in full on Queen Victoria style gowns. I was dying from cuteness!! So, it’s then time for bed, and the little girl comes over and gives me a hug goodnight. And then I realized that my guy was exhausted from his night before. So, I left to go home. He texted me that he felt bad that he was so tired and hoped he hadn’t ruined things. I replied that “yes, the fact that you were tired is unforgiveable, and I’m going to ignore the fact that you’re the nicest, sweetest guy ever!” I really like him. I’m just not ready to commit to him, because I think it’s a messy situation. Until I’m certain that he has cut ties from his ex, I’m going to continue to date other guys. I don’t really want to. But, I feel that in order to maintain a little distance, it’s necessary that I do!
So, I went back online and made some dates with new guys. I decided to give this new Marine a chance. He’s been trying real hard to hang out, and I was kind of putting him off because of Computer Guy. Well, I was also putting him off because he has 3 kids and a very close ex wife. But, he promised that it was over with her, and he was ready to move on. So we hung out Monday night. I met him at Buffalo Wild Wings. He was super sweet. Quite possibly, he was the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. He was just very calm and nice and had this great energy about him. I was so nervous. I don’t think I’ve ever been so nervous in my life. I couldn’t stop fidgeting. It was insane! But, we ended up talking for a couple hours. It was real easy being with him. And just nice. He invited me to go trick-or-treating with him and his family on Sunday. I thought that would be a little nerve wracking to meet his kids and his ex, but I thought it also sounded like a lot of fun. Then on Wednesday he invited me to go to his ex-wife’s cousin’s birthday party. I probably shouldn’t have gone, but I wanted to see how they interacted and to meet the ex. She was actually really nice to me. But, I don’t get why he likes me: she and I are POLAR opposites. For example, she showed up in this adorable (but really, really tight and low-cut) dress and super high heels. I showed up in jeans and a sweater and sandals. She talked about exercising and being fat. I didn’t. I mean, I just don’t think we have anything in common. Well, cut to Sunday, and I see that she likes to read Poe and is actually a pretty intelligent person. OK..but I’m getting ahead of myself. Her cousins were very nice to me, also. But, we all just felt so awkward. At one point, she and I were sitting next to each other, and I was so awkward! I told him that no matter what I ever put him through, it will never compare as to how I felt that night. But, it was also nice to get meeting her out of the way when it wasn’t just the 3 of us. She asked if I liked him, and said he’s really nice and that he really likes me. She and I ended up having a long conversation about the situation and how they both come from broken homes and want their kids to see that a blended family can work. But that I have to be ok with the situation. I think it’s admirable that they can do everything for the kids, and put their own feelings aside. I don’t know if I can handle it, and I have told him that. He understands.
Saturday, he wanted me to meet him at a Halloween party. I was going to go after the USC game. But, I ended up not getting to my apartment until midnight. I wouldn’t have gotten to him until 12:30. And I was exhausted. He told me he didn’t want me driving if I was tired. I would have, but I’m really glad he made that choice for me. Apparently they had an awesome time, and he was trashed. It was probably best that I didn’t go afterall. I went to his house on Sunday for Halloween. I was super nervous about meeting the kids. They were all so sweet though!! The middle kid was my insta-best friend. She talked my ear off the whole time. She curled up on the sofa against me and watched tv with me. While trick-or-treating, she held my hand and had me go up to the doors with her. It made me want to cry! Just so sweet! The little boy is almost 2, and has so much energy. He reminds me so much of my little brother when he was a kid. I think for 3 hours straight, and he and the puppy were playing chase around the house. Non-stop. It was hilarious! The oldest girl was adorable too. She was a little more reserved at first, but then opened up. She loves to read and write, and was proudly proclaiming herself to be a tomboy. I told her I am a tomboy too, and very proud of that! She was sad that her friend couldn’t come trick or treating with us, cause she was stuck with the little kids and the grown-ups. I promised her that we would still have fun. I was also sad to realize that I was classified in the “grown-ups” group. But, when we got back to the house, she confessed that she did have a lot of fun still. When we got back, we passed out candy. It was me and the 2 girls passing out candy. My guy kept telling me I could let them do it by themselves and go sit down. I guess he didn’t quite understand that I preferred to pass out candy and was having so much fun. It was then that the oldest girl asked if I could spend the night and if we could have a slumber party. She said I could even sleep in their room. It was so cute! The costumes on all of the kids were so cute!! My guy’s oldest kid was a vampire and did her own make-up. She was very proud of it, and I complimented her work. The two little ones were pirates. There was this one little guy who was dressed as a boxer. I think he was my favorite! There were so many princesses and I saw 2 little girls in full on Queen Victoria style gowns. I was dying from cuteness!! So, it’s then time for bed, and the little girl comes over and gives me a hug goodnight. And then I realized that my guy was exhausted from his night before. So, I left to go home. He texted me that he felt bad that he was so tired and hoped he hadn’t ruined things. I replied that “yes, the fact that you were tired is unforgiveable, and I’m going to ignore the fact that you’re the nicest, sweetest guy ever!” I really like him. I’m just not ready to commit to him, because I think it’s a messy situation. Until I’m certain that he has cut ties from his ex, I’m going to continue to date other guys. I don’t really want to. But, I feel that in order to maintain a little distance, it’s necessary that I do!
Subscribe to:
Comments (Atom)
