Insta-family

Things with Computer Guy didn’t work out. On date 3 or 4, I found out that he’s a huge conspiracy theorist. It started with “the government is putting fluoride in our water to dumb down the population”. How about people are dumbing themselves down by not actually studying in school, or trying to learn or make something of themselves? How about people spend too much time watching tv or playing video games and not enough time reading a book or a newspaper? Then it was “the government is ruled by this gnarly law called maritime law, and the UCC is the most evil law in the world.” Ok, this one is easy for me. 3 years in law school, remember? Um, no. “Maritime law” is basically the law of boats- it’s law that applies to boat related activities. Not so much the law that governs the land. Actually is the opposite of land related law. And the UCC is evil? Yes, that dang Uniform Commercial Code that governs sales of goods and other evil things like that!! I pointed these things out. He didn’t care. He said I’m one of the spoonfed masses. I asked where he got his information. He said from youtube clips from really smart people. I asked if he’s checked their resources. He said he trusted these people. I called him a hypocrite. He said he trusted these people and their research. I asked if the “spoonfed masses” trusted their sources, then how are they wrong? His head then exploded. Ok, that’s not entirely true. But, he got real annoyed that I would question it. Then he played this youtube clip about how the legal system is just a game, and it’s meant to play with people’s lives and how the lawyers are the players. I’m sorry, but please do not insult me in my own home! Oh, and he went off about how Pearl Harbor and 9-11 were inside government conspiracies. I’m the wrong person to be spouting this BS to. I’m so pro-USA and proud to be an American and all of that. I support our troops, and pay taxes and want to work for the government! So, that was the end of that.

So, I went back online and made some dates with new guys. I decided to give this new Marine a chance. He’s been trying real hard to hang out, and I was kind of putting him off because of Computer Guy. Well, I was also putting him off because he has 3 kids and a very close ex wife. But, he promised that it was over with her, and he was ready to move on. So we hung out Monday night. I met him at Buffalo Wild Wings. He was super sweet. Quite possibly, he was the sweetest guy I’ve ever met. He was just very calm and nice and had this great energy about him. I was so nervous. I don’t think I’ve ever been so nervous in my life. I couldn’t stop fidgeting. It was insane! But, we ended up talking for a couple hours. It was real easy being with him. And just nice. He invited me to go trick-or-treating with him and his family on Sunday. I thought that would be a little nerve wracking to meet his kids and his ex, but I thought it also sounded like a lot of fun. Then on Wednesday he invited me to go to his ex-wife’s cousin’s birthday party. I probably shouldn’t have gone, but I wanted to see how they interacted and to meet the ex. She was actually really nice to me. But, I don’t get why he likes me: she and I are POLAR opposites. For example, she showed up in this adorable (but really, really tight and low-cut) dress and super high heels. I showed up in jeans and a sweater and sandals. She talked about exercising and being fat. I didn’t. I mean, I just don’t think we have anything in common. Well, cut to Sunday, and I see that she likes to read Poe and is actually a pretty intelligent person. OK..but I’m getting ahead of myself. Her cousins were very nice to me, also. But, we all just felt so awkward. At one point, she and I were sitting next to each other, and I was so awkward! I told him that no matter what I ever put him through, it will never compare as to how I felt that night. But, it was also nice to get meeting her out of the way when it wasn’t just the 3 of us. She asked if I liked him, and said he’s really nice and that he really likes me. She and I ended up having a long conversation about the situation and how they both come from broken homes and want their kids to see that a blended family can work. But that I have to be ok with the situation. I think it’s admirable that they can do everything for the kids, and put their own feelings aside. I don’t know if I can handle it, and I have told him that. He understands.

Saturday, he wanted me to meet him at a Halloween party. I was going to go after the USC game. But, I ended up not getting to my apartment until midnight. I wouldn’t have gotten to him until 12:30. And I was exhausted. He told me he didn’t want me driving if I was tired. I would have, but I’m really glad he made that choice for me. Apparently they had an awesome time, and he was trashed. It was probably best that I didn’t go afterall. I went to his house on Sunday for Halloween. I was super nervous about meeting the kids. They were all so sweet though!! The middle kid was my insta-best friend. She talked my ear off the whole time. She curled up on the sofa against me and watched tv with me. While trick-or-treating, she held my hand and had me go up to the doors with her. It made me want to cry! Just so sweet! The little boy is almost 2, and has so much energy. He reminds me so much of my little brother when he was a kid. I think for 3 hours straight, and he and the puppy were playing chase around the house. Non-stop. It was hilarious! The oldest girl was adorable too. She was a little more reserved at first, but then opened up. She loves to read and write, and was proudly proclaiming herself to be a tomboy. I told her I am a tomboy too, and very proud of that! She was sad that her friend couldn’t come trick or treating with us, cause she was stuck with the little kids and the grown-ups. I promised her that we would still have fun. I was also sad to realize that I was classified in the “grown-ups” group. But, when we got back to the house, she confessed that she did have a lot of fun still. When we got back, we passed out candy. It was me and the 2 girls passing out candy. My guy kept telling me I could let them do it by themselves and go sit down. I guess he didn’t quite understand that I preferred to pass out candy and was having so much fun. It was then that the oldest girl asked if I could spend the night and if we could have a slumber party. She said I could even sleep in their room. It was so cute! The costumes on all of the kids were so cute!! My guy’s oldest kid was a vampire and did her own make-up. She was very proud of it, and I complimented her work. The two little ones were pirates. There was this one little guy who was dressed as a boxer. I think he was my favorite! There were so many princesses and I saw 2 little girls in full on Queen Victoria style gowns. I was dying from cuteness!! So, it’s then time for bed, and the little girl comes over and gives me a hug goodnight. And then I realized that my guy was exhausted from his night before. So, I left to go home. He texted me that he felt bad that he was so tired and hoped he hadn’t ruined things. I replied that “yes, the fact that you were tired is unforgiveable, and I’m going to ignore the fact that you’re the nicest, sweetest guy ever!” I really like him. I’m just not ready to commit to him, because I think it’s a messy situation. Until I’m certain that he has cut ties from his ex, I’m going to continue to date other guys. I don’t really want to. But, I feel that in order to maintain a little distance, it’s necessary that I do!