date with surfer lawyer

I had a date last week with Surfer Lawyer. He emailed me last week after I got back from Puerto Rico asking if I wanted to get lunch on Thursday. I said sure. I picked a spot close to the courthouse, cause Veggie Girl suggested it to me. It was a real cool, artsy place. Surfer Lawyer was already there when I got there. He was sitting in the doorway, and noticed me right away. Apparently he eats lunch there all the time. I thought I was being original in suggesting this artsy place. But, he seemed pleased with my decision anyway. We sat and ate lunch. We chatted about all sorts of things, from the law to Puerto Rico to surfing and whatnot. It was fun. I wasn’t sensing any immediate sparks, but it was fun nonetheless. He wanted me to hang out on Saturday with him and his friends at the racetracks. Weezer was playing. I told him I couldn’t because I had to go to a bridal shower for Little Sister. Then he offered to take me and Veggie Girl apartment shopping on Sunday cause Veggie Girl was looking to move down south by his area. But, I couldn’t, cause I had to go to LA. But, it was cute he wanted to hang out this weekend, so I figured I’d give him another chance and see how it went. I emailed him when I got back to work, cause he said he wanted my “real” email address, since I’d only given him my work address. He responded right away. Then, that was the last time I heard from him. So weird!! Here he was begging me to hang out over the weekend, and then nothing?! I don’t get dudes at all! But, it makes me realize that I should have never given up my “no lawyers” rule. It’s funny, cause I wasn’t feeling him really, but the fact that he blew me off kind of pisses me off, and makes me want him to call. Yeah, that’s weird. I know.

I did something I maybe shouldn’t have done. And then I did something that I should have done. First, for the “I shouldn’t have”: I emailed The Captain. He’s back from the war, so I said that if he wanted to get a beer sometime, that’d be cool. I figure that we both acted pretty crappy last time. Maybe we’d both be better now. He wrote back right away that he would be down for a beer, but that he lives a little farther away now. But, I don’t think that’s a problem. I don’t mind driving a little farther. If he’s nicer, then he’s worth it.

As for the “I should have”: I re-signed up on Eharmony. I figure, what’s the harm? I’m still trying to meet someone in real life. I’m not going to put on blinders in my day to day life. But, I like online dating. I think it’s a great avenue for meeting people. A few guys have emailed me. I’ve declined most of them. I’m trying to be a little more open to different types of people. But, I don’t know if I can change what I’m physically attracted to. Like, I don’t like chubby guys. There’s a guy who seems nice and who is an “educator”, but he’s chubby. I haven’t decided whether I should respond to him or not. If I know I’m not going to be attracted to him, should I even bother? Or, is it time I give up worrying about attraction? I think that I’m not a superficial person, but I need to be attracted to a person!! I don’t think that’s wrong. I met The Captain on Eharmony. It’s like a complete circle. And at the very least, hopefully it’ll create some great stories to share with people. At best, it’ll lead to a happily ever after for me. Oh, and I found a promotional code which got me the service for only $9.95 a month, so no matter what happens, at least I’m not too much invested monetarily in this whole thing.

I’ve been talking to TB a lot lately. We’re just friends. He wants it that way. I don’t. I want us to be together. He thinks we don’t work together. I don’t understand that. He said he’s an enigma. I think he’s dumb. We talk all day everyday. We talk from morning til night. We get flirty with each other. We talk about everything. He may come out to California for my birthday. I think he’s just worried about being together cause he doesn’t know where his life is going to take him. If he re-enlists, he may try to transfer out to Pendleton. I hope he does! I just know that I love talking to him. I’m not waiting around for him to figure out that he is in love with me. I just hope he doesn’t figure it out before it’s too late and I find my next Prince Charming. But, if that happens, then I guess we weren’t supposed to be together afterall. I just really, really want it to end that way! But, life has a funny way of working itself out. I just need to be patient and see what happens!